Fully Five Newsletter Issue #046 Why you hate New Year's resolutions ↓ Every December, I feel the same quiet resistance in my body. People start talking about “big goals” and “fresh starts,” and part of me wants that too. But another part of me is already tired just thinking about it. I don’t actually hate New Year’s. I hate the feeling of signing an invisible contract I'm worried my future self can’t keep. So I stall. I research systems. I compare planners. I write out elaborate strategies...
11 days ago • 4 min read
Fully Five Newsletter Issue #045 Your life has its own autophagy ↓ For the past few weeks, I’ve been experimenting with a 36-hour fast every Thursday. I finish dinner Wednesday night, don’t eat all day Thursday, and break the fast Friday morning. At first, it was a logistics problem in my head: Will my energy crash? Will I still be able to get work done? Will I turn into a monster around my family by 8pm? But this week, something else became obvious. The fast didn’t just change how my body...
18 days ago • 4 min read
Fully Five Newsletter Issue #044 You're not stuck because you can't take action ↓ Some of the most exhausting days in my life look, from the outside, like I “did nothing.” I stayed home.I scrolled a little.I thought about things.I imagined different futures.I opened the project, then closed it. By the end of these days I feel drained and disappointed, and the story that shows up is always the same: “I’m stuck. I can't seem to take action on anything.” But if you watch closely, those days...
25 days ago • 6 min read
Fully Five Newsletter Issue #043 The question you’re not smart enough to ask ↓ Earlier this week, I found myself in a familiar place. Already behind on the things I wanted to finish in December. Frustrated that everything was taking longer than I swore it would. Trying to convince myself that if I could just work a little smarter, I’d catch up. This is one of my default patterns. I overestimate my available capacity. I underestimate the effort a project will take. And when the gap between the...
about 1 month ago • 4 min read
Fully Five Newsletter Issue #042 Why you don’t feel grateful (even when you are) ↓ We just celebrated Thanksgiving in the States. Which means many of us spent the week talking about gratitude, thinking about gratitude, or trying to muster up gratitude while sitting at a table full of people who quietly drain the life out of us 😉 And earlier this week, a Five in FFA shared something that put words to a very familiar experience. She said, “I know I’m grateful. I just don’t feel grateful. So...
about 1 month ago • 4 min read
Fully Five Newsletter Issue #041 Your mind is trying to do your body’s job ↓ A few weeks ago, I caught myself doing something so automatic I didn’t even question it. I was sitting at my desk, feeling that familiar tightness in my chest. The subtle buzzing under my skin. The sense of being “on” even though nothing urgent was happening. And without thinking, I leaned back in my chair and started trying to understand it. I ran through questions like a checklist: Why am I anxious? What triggered...
about 2 months ago • 3 min read
Fully Five Newsletter Issue #040 What Fives really fear when emotions show up ↓ Last week, I was on a research call with a Five who admitted something I’ve heard in different words from almost every Five I’ve talked to. She said, “If I let myself feel what’s actually here, I’m afraid it will swallow me. And then if something comes up and someone needs something from me, I won’t have anything left.” She wasn’t talking about a meltdown. She wasn’t talking about panic or rage. She meant ordinary...
about 2 months ago • 4 min read
Fully Five Newsletter Issue #000 Having emotions doesn't drain you... suppressing them does. ↓ A few months ago, I hit a wall. I wasn’t tired from lack of sleep. I’d been working out, eating well, keeping my schedule tight. On paper, everything looked fine. But inside, I felt heavy. Sluggish. Like I was trying to run my system on battery saver mode. So I did what most of us do when feel drained: I pulled back. I canceled plans. Got quiet. Tried to “recharge” alone. Except the more space I...
2 months ago • 3 min read
Fully Five Newsletter Issue #038 Why movement gives you more energy (not less) ↓ As Fives, we tend to think of rest as stillness. Quiet. Calm. Motionless. But stillness doesn’t always equal rest. Often, it’s just stagnation disguised as recovery. For the past few weeks inside the Fully Five Accelerator, we’ve been running group Pomodoro sessions. Twenty-five minutes of deep work, five minutes of break. Repeat. Simple, but effective. At first, I didn’t want to stop for the break. When I’m in...
2 months ago • 3 min read